What types of problems do you help people with?
People bring in a wide variety of concerns, mostly issues that are getting in the way of their everyday life.  Sometimes their physicians may have recommended that they could benefit from supportive counseling.  I provide the following types of therapy services:

Individual Therapy may help you to:
*Communicate more effectively
*Deepen your understanding about your current life and relationships
*Better manage your emotions and use them to help you get your needs met
*Look at how you deal with problems
*Understand your feelings and strengthen your sense of identity
*Validate your strengths and make sense of your vulnerabilities
*Acknowledge and deal with your fears
*Become a better "team player"
*Improve your self confidence and your self esteem
* Use what you learn to be more successful and happy in relationships and in general

Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy may help you to:
*Improve your communication and respect for one another
*Be more understanding and accepting of each other
*Accept one another's extended family
*Improve negotiation skills to deal with issues like money, household chores, parenting
* Learn to state your point of view in a way that can be heard
* Increase intimacy and desire
* Learn importance of "date nights" and having fun together
* Discover how to rebuild trust if it has been damaged
* Explore "affair proofing" your marriage or commitment
* Help each other deal with loss and disappointments
* Become a parenting "team"

Relationship Issues
Therapy can help you:
*Explore the impact of what you learned and experienced as a child and how it impacts you today
*Develop stronger social skills
*Learn to ask for what you need in a way that can be heard
*Learn to set limits and boundaries

Dealing with Grief and Loss
Loss, catastrophic or minimal, can produce feelings of sadness, helplessness and confusion. 
 Therapy can help you:
*Learn about the grieving process, i.e. what is normal
*Support you as you work through different feelings
*Help you see that there is light at the end of the tunnel

Healing After Divorce
Therapy can help you with: 
*Dealing with all of the changes that happen as a result of the divorce
*Finding your new identity and rebuilding your self esteem
*Managing stress, anxiety, grief, anger and other negative feelings
*Dealing with children and other family members

Life Transitions
Psychotherapy can be an effective way to make the most of life transitions such as:
*Moving to a new city or from high school to college, to graduate school, a job change
*Getting married, divorced and becoming widowed
*Becoming a parent
*Learning how to rebuild your life once your children are grown
*Accepting your adult child's lifestyle or partner choices
*Learning to manage the feelings that are a normal part of transitions

Anxiety/Panic and Stress Management
Therapy can help you learn to manage stress more effectively.
In a safe and supportive environment you can:
*Manage panic attacks, sometimes in conjunction with medication
*Examine evidence of anxiety and reasons for it being present
*Become aware of unresolved life conflicts and start working on their resolution
*Develop more effective coping strategies, i.e. increased social involvement, obtaining employment or
  physical exercise
*Plan constructively and develop positive expectations
*Explore feelings of worry and learn to let them go
*Find productive ways to solve problems and increase your effectiveness
*Learn how stress is actually an important life indicator

Parenting Issues
Therapy can offer you some guidelines that help you to :
*Set appropriate boundaries and limits
*Develop methods of discipline that are effective and respectful
*Learn to parent as a team
*Encourage open and respectful communication
*Build your child's confidence and feelings of self esteem

Procrastination Problems
We can help you to find more useful and successful ways to:
*Make decisions with greater ease
*Complete a project
*Feel less overwhelmed
*Understand and relieve perfectionist tendencies
*Manage tasks more efficiently
*Reduce clutter
*Recognize your priorities

Adult Children of Alcoholics and other dysfunctional family systems
Pam can help you to:
*Learn how some of the commonalities of family members dealing with alcoholism can impact children
*Identify how patterns learned in childhood can impact our current relationships in non productive ways
*Learn how to overcome some of these destructive patterns and become more effective in living the life you deserve.

Assertiveness and Empowerment
In assertiveness training, Pam teaches you how to express feelings honestly, directly and non-critically to ask for what you need without apologizing or feeling defensive.  Assertiveness training and therapy can help you:
*Recognize that you're avoiding situations because of fear or criticism
*Overcome passivity because you're afraid of making other people mad
*Stop measuring your self worth by what others think of you
*Feel more in control because you're not worried about how other people will judge you
*Assert yourself effectively without being critical of others
*Function more effectively and meet your goals in life

Anger Management
In anger management therapy, Pam helps you understand that it's OK to feel angry.  
Anger management can help you:
*Develop appropriate ways to release anger
*Set boundaries for yourself at work and in your family
*Respect the boundaries of others

Boundaries and Limit Setting
Pam will help you to:
*Understand why boundaries and limits are healthy and important in our lives
* Work towards setting appropriate boundaries with those who challenge us

Pam will assist you:
*In understanding what codependency is
*Helping you uncover how you developed this trait
*Learn ways to let go of what does not belong to you
*Be able to function more independently and recognize that self care is healthy

Pam will offer you:
*Understanding of what depression is and how it serves us
*Learning the symptoms and how to work towards controlling them
*Exploring what factors may have contributed to your depression
*Evaluate whether medication might be helpful for you
*Ideas to move towards the happiness in life that you deserve

Family of Origin Issues
Many of us come from families where issues are unresolved and problems with
family members continue to plague us.  Pam will help you to:
*Explore what went on in your childhood and realize the impact it has on you today
*Look at setting limits with family members if that needs to happen
*In some cases, developing compassion for what our parents did or did not do
*Move forward and let go of guilt, anger, and trust issues to the best of our ability

Managing Personal Stress and Achieving Life Balance
These days many of us want it all.  Trying to get it all can cause physical health consequences
and emotional turmoil.  Pam can assist you in:
*Prioritizing what is truly important to you
*Letting go of what pushes you over the edge
*Developing a lifestyle that is healthy and takes care of you and family members

History of Abuse
Many people come into counseling because the pain of past or present abuse is more than they can bear.
Pam can help you:
*By creating a safe, nurturing environment where you can acknowledge with support what is/was done to you
*Find ways to work through your feelings about the abuse
*Learn about different types of abuse. People usually think of physical abuse but mental, psychological, financial
  sexual and emotional abuse can be just as or more damaging
*If the abuse is ongoing, discuss options
*Learn to heal and take care of yourself
*Learn how not to get into another abusive relationship

Incest Survivors
Unfortunately, incest is prevalent in our society today, yet it is often hidden or not spoken about. Clients may have been incested as children, told a parent and were not believed or told they were lying.  Being incested by a family member who was supposed to keep us safe and care for you is traumatic.
Pam can help you:
*Tell your story when you are ready and validate your experiences
*Learn how to access support
*Take the steps necessary to heal
*Build your self esteem
*Determine if the incest is impacting you sexually today
*Develop more effective ways of dealing with others

Employee Assistance Programs
Many companies have employee assistance programs to benefit their employees. 
 I have six years of full time experience in working for EAP programs and also provide
 EAP services for several companies in my practice. The services are confidential 
and the employer may not even know who uses the service and for what type of problem.
Usually they cover the employee and all members of their household.  The EAP usually
 gives you a time frame and a number of visits for the services they will pay for. 
 For example 3 visits between 1/1/15 - 4/1/15.  The employee pays nothing as this 
is a benefit their employer provides.

The companies that I currently provide EAP services for are:
  Value Options
  Sobel and Racaaiti
and the list continues to grow.
























































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